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The article found below is well written and interesting to read...
However, the majority of the comments found below the article are the precise reason we have established our support group for pregnant teens. We are outraged at the disgusting lack of support and compassion that most of the comments related to this article demonstrate.

A lot of people are cruel, stupid, and can't see pass their own noses. Please don't read the comments if you are a teen who is pregnant, or the partner of one. Furthermore, don't read them if you're a new teen parent.
For the rest of us, however, we need to read and digest and then take steps to eradicate the hate and intolerance, the fear and judgment. Our teens need our support, they are not fully grown yet and look at what our government and society has to do to support our grownups! Perhaps this is due to the lack of support and guidance we, as a general society, give teens who find themselves in difficult positions.

By definition, our teen years are the time between childhood and adulthood. The job of a teen is to navigate that transition and in the process of learning how to handle being an adult, they often don't do it the easiest way the first time.

Our group does not believe that a teen pregnancy is a mistake or a problem, though it can make things challenging. We also do not believe that the teen mom and/or the teen dad should be punished, condemned, or have their lives made more difficult than it's already going to be. Pregnancy can be tough, and parenting even tougher... We have nothing but compassion for the teens who've found themselves in this situation because we know, as adults, how hard the process can be.


Birth leave sought for girls

Soon-to-be-moms at East High School ask for four weeks of maternity leave.
By Jeremy P. Meyer
The Denver Post
Article Last Updated: 01/07/2008 02:00:49 AM MST


Kayla Lewis, a senior at East High School, asked school-board members last month to establish maternity leave for students who are new mothers. ( Cyrus McCrimmon, The Denver Post )

Pregnant students in a Denver high school are asking for at least four weeks of maternity leave so they can heal, bond with their newborns and not be penalized with unexcused absences.

The request is unusual in Colorado's public schools, where districts tend to deal with pregnant students or new moms with specialized programs or individualized education plans.

Denver Public Schools has no district wide policy, leaving it up to schools to work out plans for students to continue their education.

Two counselors from East High School approached the school board last month, saying the policy at their school is unfair and inconsiderate because it forces new moms to return to school the day after being discharged from the hospital or face being charged with unexcused absences.

"My initial reaction is if we are punishing girls like that, that is unacceptable," said Nicole Head, one of the counselors who brought the matter to the school board last month. "We've got to do something."

East High School administrators could not be reached for comment over the winter break, but district officials say they are reviewing the policy on absences to make it "friendlier" to new moms, said DPS spokesman Alex Sanchez.

Kayla Lewis, who is five months pregnant and a senior at East, requested that the board establish maternity leave for students at a Dec. 20 public hearing.

"After you have the baby, your body needs time to heal," the 18-year-old said.

That is true, said Dr. Sarah Grope, pediatrician at HealthOne's Rocky Mountain Hospital for Children in Denver.

"To just assume that two days after having a baby they can go back to school is ridiculous at best," Grope said. "During that time, they should be able to do their schoolwork and give time to bond with their children."

School-board member Michelle Moss was baffled that schools were giving girls unexcused absences after birth.

"It's critical that these young women have a chance to bond with their babies," Moss said. "Maybe we do need a policy. Clearly, as a district, we have to look at what is going on with our young women. We've got to look at the birth-control issues and teen pregnancy and how we best help them deal with it and still graduate."

Denver has one of the highest teen-pregnancy rates in the state. Of every 1,000 girls ages 15 to 17, 54.5 will become pregnant in the city, compared with 24.3 throughout Colorado, according to state health statistics.

The district has a school for pregnant teens and new moms, Florence Crittenton School, but it has a waiting list. Plus, many students want to remain at the school where they started, said Head, the counselor at East.

Cherry Creek, Adams 12, Jefferson County and Douglas County school districts have policies in which students work with counselors and principals to devise plans that will keep them in school.

Several districts have special schools with child-care services for new moms. Others have programs that allow students to receive high-school credit.

"When a girl tells us she is pregnant, we advise her to work one on one with her counselor and go from there to see what they can work out," said Michelle Ancell, spokeswoman for Cherry Creek Schools.

"The counselor plays middleman between the principal and the student," said Melissa Reeves of Jefferson County Schools, who added that the district has started a computer-based credit-recovery program that students can use during evening hours.

Douglas County has had a program for 19 years called WINGS, or Winning in New Growth Situations, that offers support and instruction for the girls once a week, allowing them to earn elective credits in nutrition and parenting. The program has 20 students, said coordinator Susan Anderson.

The district has a school that begins at 4:30 p.m. for new parents that is attached to Highlands Ranch High School. Students also are able to stay in their schools, but that is not easy for many new moms, she said.

"Day care is very difficult, hard to come by and expensive," Anderson said. "We just work really hard to make sure kids graduate high school. We know it's so important."

Teen mothers face a challenging future, with many dropping out. A third of teen moms receive their high-school diplomas and 1.5 percent get college degrees before they turn 30, according to the National Campaign to Prevent Teen Pregnancy.

"If there are young mothers asking for maternity leave, the board should listen to them," said Lori Casillas, executive director of the Colorado Organization on Adolescent Pregnancy, Parenting, and Prevention. "If they think it is a barrier to graduation, the board should look at that."

Her organization advocates that schools provide child-care services for new moms. Too many girls drop out after giving birth, and schools must do something to keep them, Casillas said.

Students at one high school in southern Colorado wanted to set up a child-care center, but the principal forbade it, saying it would encourage teen pregnancy, she said.

"There is no evidence that has ever happened," Casillas said. "I don't think schools have been proactive at creating policies that encourage young mothers to remain in school. Schools need to say, 'What if you do come back, then what?'

"Schools need to say, 'This is what we do to support your learning.' That's not happening."

Jeremy P. Meyer: 303-954-1367 or jpmeyer@denverpost.com


 

  • Childcare in Schools I believe the solution is that "if" a teen does become pregnant and want to use the childcare system while they are in school, that they must work part-time in the school. This may be via a tutor, cafeteria, janitorial, etc. This way the school does not feel it is "encouraging" teen pregnancy. Yet, it is a fact and if these mothers can finish their education it should help them that much more to be able to sustain their child and possibly not need government assistance. Just my 2 cents...
    veronica c

  • If the girls need 4 weeks or 4 months off fine as long as they can keep up with their studies from home. But hey, school budgets are already strained. Ain't my fault these girls don't protect themselves, let their parents take an extra job to pay for daycare.

    And yes, it's the girl's fault. She is the one who has the risk of pregnancy so the ultimate responsibility is her's. In a perfect world the guys would do the right thing but we know that doesn't happen in most cases.
    Steve

  • Don't incentivize it. Getting pregnant when you are a teen should be difficult.
    T M

  • I think regardless of the ages of these young women they should be allowed the time off school to heal and also bond with there baby. Now days there other methods for them not to get behind such as online classes and also make up work at home. I myself was a teen mom 16 yrs ago and was very lucky to finish school. We have to give these young moms credit for wanting to go back to school to provide a positive future for there child.
    e sal


  • Getting pregnant while in school is bad. At least these days they are trying to help the teen. Although it is not right a teen should wait to start a family. There was nothing said on how these teens are treated at school, are they harassed, made to feel on the outside, are the school officials treating the same as the other students? If this is happening it is bad and I know 1st hand. 40 years ago I went though this in my senor year, it got so bad I didn't want to go to school. I was sent to Florence Crittenton Home for unwed Mothers where at that time were very strict but you weren't singled out or treat like the kreeping crud.
    I am so glad that there are options for the teens now. Until our morals change we are going to have provide for these teens in many ways both public and private.
    Zinka T


  • Having kids at any time is difficult, not just when you're a teenager.

    Let's be pragmatic here though. These girls are already seriously at risk for dropping below the poverty line and have a very difficult life both for themselves and their family. Some may be motivated by simple compassion - giving these people the tools they need to be productive members of society. Others may be motivated by $$$ - these girls will cost you a lot less money if they can get an education and become productive as opposed to habitual welfare recipients.

    Not to mention that studies have shown that the two most important factors in how well educated kids are are the attitudes that their family and their friends take towards education. How are these girls supposed to value something (for their kids) that they never got?

    And what about abortion? I think one of the easiest ways to reduce the number of abortions is to help young mothers - not make their lives excessively difficult.

    The bottom line is that you don't want these girls dropping out of school. This isn't good for anyone involved. What harm could it do to give them a month of sick leave? When comparing the costs to benefits, the benefits are overwhelmingly greater.
    Jan Vandersee: Hula Hooper


  • The last thing these girls need is a 4 week vacation from school to "bond" with their baby! If their priorities were more focused on school to begin with, they would not be in this situation. What to do.

    DPS already uses teachers to go to homebound students; sounds like these girls are perfect candidates for the homebound student program. Additionally DPS needs to get childcare in the schools pronto for these girls. Any program should also involve the "dads". Clearly they must not be stepping up to help with the "bonding" or other responsibilities of raising a baby or these girls would not be asking for relief!

    Finally, whoever is in charge of DPS' program to reduce teen pregnancies needs to be held accountable and fired - they clearly are failing in their task. Children raising children is a serious issue with long-term consequences - most all bad.
    Marie Trujillo

  • It sounds like becoming pregnant while in a Denver high school is roundly accepted instead of being discouraged.

    So again KA CHING KA CHING.

    Glad I'm not a Denver taxpayer.
    B

  • Taxpayers pay for the school. Students can request, but society need not cave. Students who become pregnant and wish time to recover from delivery and bond with a baby must withdraw as a full time student for a semester or a term to concentrate on caring for themselves and providing for the infant. One cannot properly or fairly do both. The school, other students and staff ought not be in any way penalized; nor should the child or the student's family be inconvenienced. Women who choose to be mothers must realize that they--not society--must accept responsability for that life. And what about the father? Shall we permit bonding time?
    Janice Taylor

  • If... If football players could carry babies, there would already be such a policy. Yes, it should be hard to be a teenage mom. I'm thinking it will be, even if they get 4 weeks off. Give the girls some time off and they can make up for it during summer school.
    Mischa Kenton

  • If you think you are old enough to have sex, then you are old enough to face the consequences. The school district didn't force them to have sex or to keep their child, so why should they get special treatment? If you are a teenage mother, then time to start growing up and you can take that first step by facing up to the consequences of your irresponsible actions. You choose to keep your kid, you choose to make certain sacrifices, ie education.....I have zero sympathy for them...
    ml moore

  • I think the long term benefit of educating young moms is worth far more than a temporary cost. I'd rather help with day care than jail, long term welfare or fosterage.

    I agree that these young women should be allowed the homebound program, or sign onto one of the online districts from the Plains, whichever works for the particular student.
    To penalize ONLY the female while the male gets off free, is a great disservice.
    When the dad is known, he can help with the childcare costs through a district.

    The school's job is to educate, not handicap.
    burbgal


  • And this will make it that much harder to get them to go back to school after the 4 weeks are up.
    Zack

  • Are you serious I think someone needs to take a serious look at the sex education (or lack thereof) that DPS is providing for these teenagers. 54% is downright outrageous [editors note: the article does not indicate 54% but 54.5 students in 1000] and inexcusable. Also, why should they be allowed maternity leave?? As a college student I would still be held accountable for my school work and attendance unless excused by a doctor. To reasonably spend the necessary time with a newborn I would have to take the semester off. Timing is everything in life and there are consequences and rewards for every action. Perhaps these young girls should have thought about the ramifications of parenthood and really where are their parents in all this? Perhaps if they want to graduate then they may just have to take another semester or year to do so. Programs such as homebound, summer school and online classes seem like a viable solution but where are the programs for prevention?
    Raven P



  • Welcome to the real world
    Interesting that these girls are requesting what is theoretically assured to employed mothers in the Family Medical Leave Act; however, they don't seem to understand that in the workforce, while one cannot be fired for requesting/taking the time off, one doesn't have to be paid for it (although some companies do pay for maternity & even paternity leave) - so many mothers are back in the workforce with days of giving birth. This will be the girl's first reality check as a mother - welcome to the real world.

    I agree with the person who suggests if they take time off to "bond & heal" it should be made up, either in extra hours or during summer school unless they can pass the exams to advance. If that means they can't graduate with their class, sorry. I do think that recoving from a birth and studying from home (with or with homebound teachers) shouldn't be considered "unexcused absence" - but, unless the girl in question is in the hospital, she does need to make it to the exams - and needs to get the work done required by the course(s) she is taking.

    As far as the whiner who complains schools aren't doing their job teaching pregnancy prevention - this is what comes of abstinence only programs, especially in a society which attempts to sell everything based on sex. Perhaps if the girls & boys involved were as well-informed about sex & (and its consequences & how to avoid them) as the kids are in Europe (which not only has lower abortion rates but higher ages of first sexual experience for both boys & girls) perhaps there wouldn't be so many unwed teen pregnancies. Should abstinence be taught & even encouraged? Absolutely. But these kids also need to know silly little details like the it only takes once to get pregnant or to contract an STD (including HIV) - and that there are ways to minimize those risks - even if they are foolish enough to give in to temptation.
    Mary


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